I'm pretty good looking, for a girl

My own Big Fat Indian Wedding also introduced me to the fun and flashiness of South Asian formal wear. I recently bought this as a present to myself, to wear at the cousin's wedding we're going to this winter:

It's from exclusively.in, which is like the gilt.com of India. I like them a lot, because it would otherwise be hard for an American like me with marginal Hindi skills to get a hold of clothes from a lot of the designers they feature. I admit it, I have expensive taste in flashy Indian clothes.

More posts about fighting and food

Actually, just food this time around.

I haven't posted anything here for a while because I was busy talking about getting married to F on that other blog where I talked about getting married. That was great. Now it's done and I'll get back to my usual favorite topics.

It's spring, and although the weather is disappointing the vegetables are holding up their end of the bargain. I have some great meals planned for the next week or so. I'll describe them now, and when I have made them I'll put up some pictures.

• Friday, dinner with some friends at our house: potato gnocchi with garlicky broiled asparagus, a fried egg, lemon & basil from our newly established container herb garden.
• Sunday, brunch with some other friends at our house: masala dosa (that's when you fill the dosa crepe-style with spicy potatoes) with sambar, coconut chutney, and sweet yogurt sauce. Maybe uttapam too (that's when you embed things like tomatoes, onions and ginger in the dosa batter, blueberry pancake style). And chai.
• Dinner #1 sometime next week: Brussels sprouts broiled with cumin and mustard seeds, greek yogurt (probably also gujarati spiced), and some polenta or something.
• Dinner #2 sometime next week: My family's go-to Thanksgiving wild rice stuffing with dried cherries, mushrooms, celery, onions, and herbs. I will probably add some tempeh to this so it'll be more main-dishy, and might use wild rice & quinoa instead of wild rice & brown rice. The recipe is based on this one from epicurious, but I replace the pears with cherries and leave out the sausage because I'm vegetarian.
  
• Dinner #3, sometime when I am feeling homestyle: bataka poha, because F likes it so much. Bataka poha is potatoes (bataka) cooked with "flat rice" (poha), spices, and topped with cilantro & lemon. I think flat rice is partially cooked, pounded flat, and then re-dried. Here's what bataka poha looks like:

Come to think of it, I'll post some photos of the back porch garden later, too. I'm very excited about that.

I'm back

I have abandoned this blog recently because I was pretty busy doing this:


But let me tell you what's been going on! We also bought a house....

...which has a beautiful kitchen...

...in which we've been cooking some delicious inventions to put in our awesome new Mr. Bento lunchboxes.

All it takes to make packing lunch fun is to have an exciting lunchbox.

I suppose it also helps to have exciting ingredients. This week I invented a very tasty thai-ish flavored chickpea salad. It had tomatoes, cilantro, green onions, young coconut (the soft kind), chickpeas, and a chili-garlic-lime-ginger dressing. I am really into bean salads because they're so satisfying, easy, and healthy for ladies who are going to big jiujitsu tournaments in a month like I am.

I've also got this dining room set, which used to be kind of grungy-looking white (it's ok to be grungy-looking if you were painted white several decades ago).

I'm going to lacquer it black, with cream and limey/grassy green accents, to go with our kitchen's black lacquer. I think it won't be too dark because the top of the table is glass, the seats of the chairs are upholstered, and the cabinet doors have panels where I can paint or stencil a cream & green image to lighten it up.

NOM

I invented a delicious meal-in-a-bowl yesterday. Just pile these things in this order:

cooked wild sticky rice (also called wild sweet rice, though it's not very sweet, or black glutinous rice, or other permutations)
cheese
arugula
a somewhat runny fried egg
sliced avocado
pico de gallo style salsa

The heat from the rice & egg should wilt the arugula and soften the cheese somewhat. With other salad-y greens I might not recommend the wilting, but arugula is as good wilted as it is cold and crunchy.

That's all there is to it!

fruit and vegetables failure

My office is having a "fruit and vegetables challenge" where you track how many servings of fruit and vegetables you eat and get points for them, and the points enter you in a drawing. I really love fruit and vegetables, so I thought about just tracking the ones I already eat, but then I looked at the prizes: a diet cookbook, a diet book, a book about controlling high blood pressure (mine is on the low side), a salad spinner & other kitchen knick-knacks (I've got 'em all), and an organic fruit basket. Hmm. 4 things I don't want, and one thing I already get once a week. Not worth the effort.

But I wonder how many people would actually want those things. If you don't like "health food", a diet cookbook is not going to help. A fruit basket is tasty but not really "grand prize" worthy. The stair-climbing challenge they did a few months ago had a big-screen TV as a prize. This one should offer a year's subscription to a farm share or something equally worthwhile.

Breakfast of Champions

I don't think I could make it to Sound Bites for brunch today if I didn't have a little bit to eat. So I'm snacking on sev mamra and pineapple juice (separately, not mixed). It's so spicy and energizing! I wish I could share this delicious breakfast with the world.

Note to self

I think this outfit is adorable and I would totally wear it (or something with a similar cute over-shirt and patch work) to the wedding garba of certain hypothetical in-laws. From Anshu's Designer Studio in Ahmedabad.

Shaak-umentary

Yesterday F. and I set out to document the process of making potato-cauliflower shaak so that we can send the recipe to the wedding catering folks. It turns out that we are not as certain about the method as we thought we were, and we learned some stuff about the recipe while we were making it.

Start with 4ish medium potatoes and a head of cauliflower. The sizes of vegetables can vary, but just try to have an equal volume of each.


It is a good idea to microwave, bake, pressure-cook, or boil the potatoes beforehand because then they don't have to be stir-fried as long. You want a pretty soft texture so they're easy to pick up. We didn't do it that way this time, just to see how long it would take to stir-fry them. Normally we pre-cook them though, and I think it works better that way. F's mom also pre-cooks the cauliflower, but I like the cauliflower less squishy than F. likes it.

Next, peel and cut up the potatoes into 1/2 inch to 3/4 inch cubes.


Cut the cauliflower into comparably-sized pieces.


Now for the cooking! Heat a few tablespoons of oil in a large frying pan, then add 1/2 tsp whole cumin seeds, 1/2 tsp whole mustard seeds, a few chopped fresh chilies, and about 3 big pinches of asafoetida (hing). I have never met anyone who knew what hing is called in English who did not also know what it was called in hindi or some other Indian language. It's like jaggery that way. Only Indian people know that it's called that in English, I think.


Fry those spices in the oil until they start to smell good. Then throw in the potatoes and cauliflower (if they're both pre-cooked -- if not, put the potatoes in a bit earlier than the cauliflower). If you didn't pre-cook your vegetables, you may find that periodically adding a splash of water helps them get soft. They need to be pretty soft so they're easy to pick up with bits of bread.

Stir-fry the vegetables in the oil for a little bit, then add 1/4 tsp turmeric and some ground chile powder (we used about 1/2 tsp, I think, but you may want more or less, as you like it). Different varieties of chiles have different flavors and different levels of spiciness, so be careful with that. Indian ground chiles are labeled "lal mirch" at the Indian grocery, and they are pretty hot but not very "warm" tasting. I think the closest American thing is ground cayenne pepper. Add some salt. There are a lot of vegetables in here, so I put in up to 1 tsp.

Finally, garnish it with some chopped cilantro. We forgot to take a picture at the end because we were too hungry. But this blogger added soy beans, too, which could be pretty tasty. Their final dish looked like this:

Simpleicious

Yesterday F. and I made a delicious pasta dish. The farm share has been giving us a lot of sweet potatoes, so we cut some up and roasted them, then served the chunks over pasta with wilted arugula (also from the farm share) and a sauce made from white wine, olive oil, brown sugar, salt, pepper, and tarragon. The sauce was intended as a salad dressing (does it count as "sauce" if you don't cook it?), but the ingredients of the salad were too sweet for such a sweet dressing and it actually went better with the pasta.

I imagine we could also serve those sweet potatoes with polenta, risotto, or just by themselves.

The earth is spherical, implying that it has no edge. Therefore I cannot possibly have fallen off it.

What's up is that F's computer broke, so we're "sharing" mine. Maybe after I buy him a new computer I will have time to put up photos from our awesome vacation.

Dogging update; atheists

Wow! I've been working on a new training game with Petra and it's making a big difference. Here's the idea: you and your dog are walking along and your dog sees something distracting and heads toward it. You stop, call your dog's name, and start to back up. When your dog turns her head, you mark it ("yes!") and give out some treats. (Several treats, handed out one at a time, builds duration of attention.) At level two, you do everything the same but don't call your dog's name. This teaches your dog "when there is a distraction, look at the Human."

I've been doing this with Petra for about a week, and she's making great progress on her dog-feakout problem. We even went to PetSmart yesterday with no major incidents.

There are some ads on the T that brighten my day every time I see them. They say "Good without God? 40 million Americans are." It's uncommon that somebody stands up for people like me in public life. Spreading the idea that atheists aren't bad people may seem like a small step, but it means a lot when politicians and other public figures like to use me as a placeholder for Bad People.

Farm shares are exciting

F. and I get to pick up our farm share today. Last week was our first week ever of farm share vegetables, and it's been awesome. F. has been making and freezing soup -- we would have just eaten it, but his parents visited and brought at least a week's worth of food so we have to store it somehow. This week we get some greens, various root vegetables, apples, and basil (from a local farm that has greenhouses). I might use the basil and carrots to make Thai curry. That would be delicious. So far I love having a farm share because I get a surprise every week. It's like Christmas but with vegetables.

Is this a joke?

What does a cow say?

language and mindfulness

I took a break from work to read about meditation:

http://antaiji.dogen-zen.de/eng/adult18.shtml

Its title was “Stop being mindful” – meaning not exactly that one should stop being mindful, but that if one is actively being mindful then one isn’t actually being mindful. I think.

Anyway, part of the advice in this article was to “let the walk walk, let the talk talk” – if you do sitting meditation, you aren’t “just” sitting, because you're bringing your concept of yourself along. It brought me to thinking about Hindi and the idea of saying mujhse meditation nahi hoga (“meditation will not be happening using me as an instrument”). Normally that kind of construction is used to deflect responsibility when saying things like "I won't be able to come to your party" ("Coming to your party won't be happening with me"). The active subject disappears, and so does the location of the blame for whatever is not going to be happening.

It’s kind of nonsense to say the positive version of such a sentence, but meditation is a somewhat nonsensical activity as far as I’m concerned, so I like the idea. Mujhse meditation hota hai: “meditation happens [with/using] me.” It removes the self/ego from the activity and lets the activity happen. I don't feel like I can actually do this very well in my own practice, but for me this is a new (and possibly useful) way of conceptualizing it.

I got a new gi

My new gi is one of those super-light Vulkan ones. I've only worn it a couple of times, but I like it a lot. It really is soft and light, and it's going to be great for summer training. It's slightly bigger than I'd like -- mostly it's just that the sleeves are too long -- but that's fine, I'll have the Atama women's gi to compete in. My favorite thing about the Vulkan is the pants. They're not too short! They're not too wide! The drawstring is a delightfully effective implementation of pants-closing technology!

Moving and its related responsibilities have kept me away from the mat more than I wanted in the past few weeks, but I think I've settled on a sustainable sports schedule. BJJ 3 times a week, biking to work 3 times a week (non-BJJ weekdays only, for scheduling reasons), and strength training at the Lady Gym twice a week. It sounds like a lot, but it feels like a light schedule compared to when I was also trying to work in that boxing class. It helps that I'm getting more used to the cycling, too.

Hey wow

I don't want to speak too soon, but I think I've finally gotten used to the biking. I biked to work yesterday (and back, of course), and I was not exhausted afterward! I was tired, but I was still capable of doing things like cooking dinner and hanging out.

The bike still needs some adjusting so it will fit better (I feel like the handlebars are too far away). But yesterday any soreness I had was from that, not from the actual exercise of biking. Maybe that means I should dial up the effort a bit, now that I've settled in. I would like to work on getting faster.

My parents are in town and we've been talking about wedding stuff. At the risk of cross-pollinating with the Other Blog, I will tell you what's up. First, I had ordered some sample invitations from Saima Says Design. They arrived, and were awesome. Second, Mom and I started talking about where and how to plan the mehndi party (my mom gets to be in charge of it). It will be extremely fun, but difficult because we don't have a house locally. We're thinking of getting a B&B for the day instead. That would be exactly the kind of living room environment we need. Alternatively, I bet we could ask a hotel to set up a meeting room with couches and coffee tables instead of the usual conference chairs.

train eat rest

That's the advice I got from Alvaro Romano's ginastica natural seminar. Train eat rest, in that order. No skipping the eating or the resting. No train eat eat eat rest, no train rest eat, no train train rest train... you get the idea. He actually talked through various disallowed permutations of training, eating, and resting for several minutes.

I have not exactly been following that advice for the past few days. Tuesday wasn't that bad -- I biked to work in the morning (it took about 1:20) but I got lucky and there was a severe thunderstorm in the evening so Feanil came to pick me up. Wednesday was ok, too: my first personal training appointment. She's going to help me come up with strength training workouts that will fit in with my biking and BJJ!

Thursday, though, was brutal. I biked to work in the morning (1:10) and then biked even harder on the way home because I had to make it back for BJJ (also about 1:10 because I stopped for lemonade). Got to the house, picked stuff up, and went to BJJ. I should have been exhausted at that point, but I guess biking muscles are not required for BJJ because I was not having any trouble rolling. In the future we're going to try to hit the advanced class -- we'd been going to the beginner class in order to coordinate with A., but I feel like tomorrow we should either go to both classes or just go to the later one. After BJJ we went to see a very cool band with some cool folks. So Thursday was more like train eat train train eat drink rest. Note how there is no drinking in Romano's prescription? There's a reason for that.

On Friday I was beat. I dragged myself through a day of work, then came back to the neighborhood for a boxing class. The workout is usually challenging, but this time it was rough. I still hadn't recovered from the day before. In fact its been a few days now and my leg muscles are still much tighter than they ought to be. Lesson learned: biking to work requires extra stretching. I took yesterday as a rest day. F. and I played some tennis, but I'm not good enough at tennis yet to actually get tired doing it. I feel a lot better. I've been thinking I may want to only bike to work 2-3 days per week until I get more used to it. Since it's not my only activity, I can't have it killing my energy for my real sport.

And today's round two of the personal training! I'm excited.

proof of purchase

Now... where should I bike to?

mission accomplished

A month ago now, F. and I drove to Boston. Petra slept the whole way. When we got here, our house wasn't ready to move into yet, but we took a walk around our neighborhood anyway and checked it out. This park is at the end of our street:


...and this bike path is behind the park:


F. and I moved into the new apartment yesterday. The movers couldn't schedule delivery until the 6th, so right now we're sleeping on an air mattress, sitting on the floor, and eating a lot of take-out. But the place is awesome. This is our house:



Petra raced around the place all day yesterday while we cleaned and settled in. I think she likes it. She's still avoiding the roomba, though.

Things to do in Boston

It's not that I am looking for things to do in Boston. I mean that there are a lot of things that I already need to do once I arrive.

STEP 1: Buy (probably) this bike.


STEP 2: See if I want to get married here...

or here...

or here...

or here...

or here...

etc.

STEP 3: Find a place to do BJJ.


STEP 4: Go on dates.